Come To Me Oil and Incense Recipe

K. Sis. Nicole T.N. Lasher
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Come To Me condition oil is an old formula used to motivate someone to come to the wearer.  It can be used to draw a specific person, or to draw someone from the Universe so to speak.  In the latter case, it is very useful in cultures wherein people tend to be overly shy about making their interest known.  It can inspire those who are attracted to actually do something about it.  In the former case, with a specific person, it can help them to break through both normal inhibitions and mystical blockages, depending on the level of care and spiritual respect with which it was made or charged.

Because it is generally worn on or very near the genitals, it needs to be very gentle.  Many recipes use essential oils, and this is okay, but just remember not to overdo them.  Never use the synthetic fragrance oils for this.  You can have a bad reaction.  I personally prefer to use the old fashioned infusion recipe.  Even then, do not put it on any mucous membranes, just in the tuft of hair just above the bits.

Come to Me Oil

Come to Me Oil

Come to Me oil from the altar of Arden Keren

You will need:

  • a jar
  • sunflower seed oil
  • a magnet or piece of hematite
  • 3 roasted coffee beans
  • a long stem red rose, chopped/cut up with the thorns, stem, and all, and dried
  • an extra handful of dried roses, the whole head, not just the petals if you can manage this
  • a handful of dried jasmine or lavender
  • a small dollop of honey (for sweet/benevolent intentions) or molasses (if your desire for the person to come to you contains some element of vengeance or punishment)


Call Eshu or your Gatekeeper to open the way between the wearer and the person they wish to come to them, and give nice offerings that include sweets and transportation toys.  Candies in the shape of modes of transportation such as feet, cars, bicycles, airplanes, etc. are a good idea.  The sorts of foods eaten during road trips an outings, and street foods are also good.

Give offerings to Oshun or your love deity of finer travel foods and luxuries, stuff that one would get at the Duty Free, etc.

If you’re making this for non specific others, you can save the ceremony for when the oil has a mission, but at least give small offerings to activate it.

  1. Starting with the coffee beans, put the ingredients into the jar mindfully.
  2. Pour the oil over all until everything is nicely covered.
  3. Close the jar, and let it “gestate” for 3-5 months before using.
  4. Put a dab of this just above the genitals while saying, “(Name of the desired) come to me!” with confidence three times.

Men will sometimes rub this on their actual parts.  It’s okay to do this if it won’t irritate you.

To help this process along by putting “seekers” out into the air, you may want to use a Come to Me incense.

Come to Me Incense

You will need:

  • 1/4 teaspoon black coffee powder
  • a half cup of shredded candle wax
  • a tablespoon of cornstarch, potato starch, or tapioca flour
  • a chopped up long stem rose
  • extra rose petals
  • a handful of dried jasmine or lavender
  • a teaspoon of coriander
  • a spoonful of raw sugar  (sweet) or brown sugar (punishment or vengeance)


  1. Mix all of these ingredients well.
  2. Put them in a pan or mold of a desired, store-able shape, and melt it gently.
  3. Let this cool, and then you can break off small pieces as needed.

Burn on charcoal, and open a window so some of the smoke gets outside and travels to your desired one.

You may notice that my recipe contains no catnip.  This is because I don’t find it particularly useful for the purpose of attracting humans.  If you prefer, you can still add it.  It won’t harm the recipe or take anything away from it.  It does help with relaxation, and may still be somewhat effective in extremely conservative societies.


K. Sis. Nicole T.N. Lasher

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  1. How can you buy this product.if you can do it by uourdelf

  2. I just discovered your wonderful website! Thank you for the clear, concise recipes and your wise words. I use these pills in my spell candles but it will be much more frugal and meaningful than buying premade! I feel thoroughly inspired.
    Many Blessings,
    Rose, Sunrise Sorcery

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