Phoenix Oil Recipe for Healing Heartbreak and PTSD

K. Sis. Nicole T.N. Lasher
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Phoenix Oil RecipeThe pain of heartbreak and post traumatic stress can kill.  One can in fact die of a broken heart.  When someone has trouble making a better future because of trouble from the past, this oil can help with the healing process.  It’s like Tear spray for the heart.

Phoenix Oil

You will need:

  • 18 cloves
  • 5 mango leaves or a heaping tablespoon of mango powder (amchoor)
  • a teaspoon of ginger
  • a heaping tablespoon Gardenia gummifera (dikamali) powder
  • a heaping tablespoon of myrrh
  • a teaspoon of red sandalwood powder or chips
  • a handful of mint
  • a handful of dried lemon peels
  • a teaspoon of Hawaiian red salt and/or some volcanic black salt
  • a piece of broken or sharpened onyx
  • a piece of sharp rainbow or black obsidian
  • a piece of sunstone
  • enough sunflower seed oil to fill
  • a 1/2 liter jar
  • an orange, wine red, or brown cloth


After giving offerings to your Gate Keeper and deities and spirits of healing, arrange the ingredients on your altar.

Light some pleasing incense, and give your jar some smoke.

Add the ingredients mindfully, and think on things you’ve overcome from your past.  Pray for endurance and strength for those the oil is being made for.

Give the lid some smoke, and close the jar.  Then give it a good shake.

Wrap the jar in the cloth, and store in a safe place for 3 months.  It will be helpful to hold this pack every once in awhile and say encouraging and comforting things to it.

Old School Recipe

The old fashioned recipe for this, before we had access to fancy exotic ingredients may be more suitable for some.  It works just as well, just with a little less precision.  It may make a person forgetful if it isn’t done with a lot of focus and mindfulness.  So pick a time to make this when you have privacy and quiet.  Don’t multitask.  Don’t talk to people while working on it.  Focus on what you are doing.

You will have to let this gestate for about 9 months.  I recommend making this in February around the first Oya festival time, and birthing it around Halloween or the fall Oya/Ancestors festival time.


  • 27 cloves
  • 7 balls of allspice
  • a finger of dried ginger
  • a handful of mint
  • a handful of dried lemon peels
  • a handful of melissa (lemon balm)
  • a teaspoon of salt
  • a teaspoon of dried red clay or red dirt (easy to find in North Carolina)
  • peanut oil or sunflower seed oil

Crush everything with a mortar and pestle, but don’t worry about trying to powder it.  You just want to give it that change energy and increase the surface area so things infuse better into the oil.

How to Use Phoenix Oil

Every night before going to bed, draw a clockwise circle around the heart area of your chest.  Keep some with you and do it again over the course of the day when you have a flashback, pang, or are badly triggered.  Keep some by the bed too.  If you have nightmares, do it again when you wake up from them.

Blessings! 🙂



K. Sis. Nicole T.N. Lasher

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  1. I can’t find dikamali except online. Is there a substitution for this?

    • Thank you for your question. 🙂 The dikamali would make it better, so it is worth it to order online. If you don’t use it, just add a little more myrrh and/or ginger.


  2. Would you recommend using this oil if you know you will be seeing the person, as if during a divorce proceeding? Are there other oils to combine or partner with during those type of situations?

    • Phoenix oil is a good idea *especially* in situations where you will be forced to see or be around a trauma flashback trigger. It helps to break the repeating patterns of thought and build up your endurance. Just be mindful that it is a little smelly, especially with the dikamali. It comes out smelling like a mix of cat pee and weed. So use it sparingly. It won’t conflict with most other therapeutic oils, but it may neutralize those that assist in memory and information retention. I would stick to using it before bed mainly, and then when you have to be around your ex, put a tiny tiny dab of it on the underside of your left arm near the brachial artery. Armpits are smellier than the oil, so it won’t be too noticeable.

  3. Thank you Sheloya! I have learned a lot from your site! Thank you for all your work!

  4. Thank you for this. I will be making some.

  5. Can I gift this oil to those I care about to use, as well?

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